Six Things I Learned in my 1st Year of Blogging

I am learning so much from my friends in the media business who also blog. One of those friends, who is an amazing blogger, is Lauren Smith Berger. Her blog, Working Mom Magic is awesome! Since I’m in my first year, I was dying to read these tips from her and think they are important to share, so here ya go! (…and I am accomplishing #6 right now!) Thanks Lauren!

Six Things I Learned in my 1st Year of Blogging

6 things I've learned in my first year of blogging

I can’t believe its been a year since I started consistently blogging! As I mentioned in my Best of 2014 post, I started this blog when I was pregnant with Mila… wrote a few posts and then didn’t write again for an entire year. (here’s that post from last Feb)

Going into this, I knew content was king, but there are so many other factors I had NO CLUE about. I have learned so much this past year, I couldn’t possibly write them ALL down, but I did narrow it down.

Here are 6 things I learned in my first year of blogging:

  1. Comparison is the thief of all joy: This is true in life, and in the blogging world as well. When I first started blogging I was SHOCKED by how many others were out there. I had a few blogs I enjoyed reading before I even got into all this, but beyond that I had no clue. I used to think, “I can’t compare to this other fancy site… or those professional-looking pictures… ” It can be overwhelming to see what’s out there, but try not to let it get to you. There is enough room for everyone!
  2. Some people won’t get it: So what is a blog? What do you write about? Who reads it? Just a small sampling of the questions I was asked when I started blogging. (and sometimes still get asked today) I know a lot of my friends have no idea why I blog, and that’s okay.
  3. Be careful with sponsored posts: Once your blog starts getting popular, you will likely start getting offers to write paid posts. I got a lot of offers in a short amount of time. I was so shocked that people wanted to pay me *AND* give me free stuff on top of it, that I accepted almost everything. It was a HUGE mistake. I had a few weeks where I had a TON of sponsored posts, many on a strict deadline. The whole thing stressed me out. Now I am super picky when accepting sponsored posts and I am much happier.
  4. It’s blogging, not rocket science: Blogging is a way for you to express yourself. No one can write a post exactly like you… which is good, since there is a big chance you will be writing about stuff that other people have touched on before. For me, since I am a ‘mommy blogger’ this is particularly true. There are only so many mommy-related topics out there. We all talk about basically the same stuff… parenting, potty training, crafts, pacifiers, bullying… it’s rare to have a post on a topic that hasn’t been done in some form or fashion.
  5. You will get stressed out: Blogging is a lot of work. Writing, pictures, editing, promoting on social media… it is more work then I ever thought it would be. I really love doing it, so most of the time, it doesn’t feel like work. But there have been a few times when it did. So I took a break. When I have nothing to write about, or I don’t feel like being on social media… I will give myself a week off. I have done that two times so far and felt much better afterwards.
  6. Find other bloggers: This is probably the most important. There is an amazing community of bloggers out there. I didn’t realize that going into it. I have met so many awesome women through my blog and it is a very important factor if you want to grow. I love sharing great content from other sites, and in return, they share my stuff when it is something they really like. I met most of these women through SITS girls, I highly recommend all bloggers check them out.

So there you go! I still have much more to learn, especially on the technical side. SEO, photography, graphics… I could go on and on. Right now, I am just going to focus on writing posts that make me happy & hope the rest will just fall into place!

Visit Lauren’s blog Working Mom Magic by clicking here!
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Kim Kardashian – the 24/7 mom?

Kim tweetOh, where do I begin? Most of us can agree with this fun “just a mom” post. But I didn’t post it. You didn’t post it. Kim Kardashian did. I don’t know her personally, but I’m going to assume some things she isn’t doing on a day to day basis like the rest of us middle-class, non sex tape making working moms. I work 40+ hours a week, away from home, away from my kids to be all these things. I’m sure she pays for a lot of these things. I’m not saying if you’re rich, you’re not a good mom or an important mom or anything like that. But if you do have millions, I’m sure things are a tad easier and less stressful. Want me to prove it? Give me a lot of money so I don’t have to rush to and from work all day everyday and I’ll let you know how it goes 😉

Plus, Kim Kardashian posted this, so that just makes it so much more fun. It wouldn’t be worth a blog post if it were posted by Reese Witherspoon or Kate Middleton, but it’s Kim K., so this is my “I honestly know nothing” opinion of what Kim Kardashian does/doesn’t do on a daily basis as a mom:

Alarm Clock – maybe 

Cook – doubt it

Maid – really doubt it (because if I had a fraction of Kim K.’s money, I’d have a maid myself)

Waitress – doubt it

Teacher – maybe

Nurse – doubt it

Referee – doubt it

Handyman – really doubt it

Security Officer – doubt it

Photographer – yes, but only if it’s a selfie

Counselor – maybe

Chauffeur – really doubt it

Event Planner – doubt it

Hairdresser – seriously? Kim doesn’t even do her own hair

Personal Assistant – doubt it

ATM – obviously

Scare away the boogie man – maybe

Don’t get paid holidays, sick pay or days off – this is somewhat laughable

I work day and night – still laughing

With that said, believe it or not, I actually do like Kim Kardashian… kind-of. (But my favorite sister is Khloe.)

Iggy, I say cellulite schmellulite

IggyI just read Iggy Azalea quit social media because people were criticizing her on Twitter. Then, I saw what for and I have to tell you – I’m a bit confused.

So, I thought she was famous for not only being a rapper, but for having a nice butt. She and her big booty friend Jennifer Lopez even wrote a song about it. I thought it was her thing, like J.Lo and Beyoncé.

But now because it’s not under perfect lighting or airbrushed or greased up for a video, we don’t like it anymore?

Iggy, don’t get off social media for this. You are in a lose/lose situation. When people see some cellulite – I guess they will attack you on social media. But I bet you, those people sitting on their asses typing are sitting on much more cellulite than you are.

iggy 2 But even if we see you without cellulite, there are going to be problems there too because then you aren’t a “real” woman and you are lumped into the same category as Victoria’s Secret models (who are in fact real people FYI.) Then, you’ll get those people who think you are being airbrushed too much and it’s sending the wrong message to young women out there. Then you will be too fit and that won’t be realistic for the rest of us because we don’t have the time and the money to pay for personal trainers like you. Blah, blah, blah.

Whatever you do – it will be wrong. So until those opinions on Twitter pay your bills, they don’t matter. So don’t quit.

Stop it with the duck lips and selfies. Please.

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Most of my blog traffic comes from links people click on via social media… so let’s talk about what you’re posting for a minute.

1.) Get a life. Don’t make your hobby Facebook/Twitter/Instagram/etc… and don’t over post or spend an excessive amount of time on it. (I know what you’re thinking now – you’ve seen 100 pictures of my daughter dressed up as Elsa. I should take my own advice right?)

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2.) #selfie. Please stop. Instead, actually do something interesting and make a memory, which you can capture on your phone. The only people who actually enjoy looking at your selfies are yourself and weirdos looking for alone time material. (Again, you’re thinking of me with my mascara before and after selfies? Hey – that’s for work… not for comments. For money. I’m trying to make a living here.)

3.) Don’t do duck lips in your photos. Has anyone ever told you that look is hot? Doubt it. And why are so many girls doing it? Because it makes their cheekbones look more prominent… is that really the ONLY reason for the dumbest looking picture ever? (This one, I will NEVER be guilty of – unless I’m making fun of you.)

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4.) I think we all have those friends who are in relationships that in real life don’t appear to be that amazing, but on social media they pretend to be the most in love couple you have ever seen. You are overcompensating. You know it and everyone else does too. When you post a picture of your most recent gift or a new profession of love, we know you just got in another big fight… which brings me to my next point,

5.) When you are fighting, we don’t really care to hear about it in your secretly coded messages or song lyrics. Get a diary. (Write about your fake love in there too.)

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6.) If you do a good thing for someone, did you do it because you wanted to be nice? Or because you wanted to tell everyone on Facebook how great of a person you are – sometimes I get confused.

7.) Finally, if someone’s posts drive you nuts – there is this thing you can do where you can “unfollow” them or “unsubscribe” from them. It’s amazing. I do it all the time.

Now, all of you who do these things that annoy me – don’t get defensive and tell me how great of a person you are and how truly in love you are. Just go in the bathroom or the drivers seat of your car, stick out those duck lips and take a selfie 😉

Pin it… or BUY IT on Pinterest!

Have you ever wanted to buy something you see on Pinterest? If you have, there is usually a link you could click on and it’d most likely take you to a site like Etsy or in my case, my Younique website… but now, Pinterest may be changing the game and adding a BUY button. Forget the PIN IT. Soon, you can click on the BUY IT and shop without ever leaving the digital pin board. At least, that’s the rumor I hear. Kinda cool, huh?

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Here are some fun facts about Pinterest:

  • Pinterest launched in March 2010
  • The site brings in 70 million monthly visitors (53 million are in the US)
  • Joy Cho has the most followers on Pinterest – 13.3 million
  • Pinterest is the third most popular social networking site (behind Facebook and Twitter)
  • 80% of Pinterest users are women (and 85% of pins come from women)
  • 47% of online shoppers have made a purchase based on a Pinterest recommendation (that’s more than Facebook and Twitter)
  • The average time spent on Pinterest is 14 minutes per visit (just enough time for me to realize my house is too small to have a cool mud room like the ones in all those pretty pictures)
  • Most pins lead back to blogs
  • Pinterest is worth 5 billion dollars (it brings in no revenue, but is an investors dream)
  • The founder and CEO of Pinterest is a 33 year old man – Ben Silbermann

Want to see what I pin? Follow me and my boards.

Damn Disney! Be nicer.

Before we start, I just want to make it clear that I am not one of those weirdo moms who doesn’t let their child watch Disney movies because they are violent. Julianna has seen Hans attempt to behead Elsa dozens of times. I’m just saying I am surprised as an adult that I am noticing this stuff and I didn’t think twice about it when I was a kid watching… which I guess is a good thing. So let’s discuss what has me using “because he/she is not very nice” whenever my almost 3-year-old asks me what is going on…

Let’s start with one of the greats – The Lion King. Here, we not only see Scar plan Mufassa’s death with the stampede… but he also makes sure Simba sees it AND we see Scar let Mufassa drop to his death.

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As if it’s not sad enough, we see Simba’s reaction to it all, THEN Scar blaming him for the entire thing.

(Good thing the hyenas eat him at the end – not seen, but implied.) While this is disturbing, it’s not as bad as some other death scenes in movies and I think it’s because these are animals.

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Like I already mentioned… Hans tries to BEHEAD Elsa. Thank God Anna got the strength to stop it at the last minute! But still Disney, couldn’t think of a less disturbing way for the bad prince to attempt to kill the Ice Queen after trying to freeze her sister to death?!

And I just saw this one the other night in Tangled. The crazy kidnapper mom wannabe woman STABS Eugene to death. Yes, Rapunzel’s magic hair brings him back to life, but before that – we see the stabbing, the bloody stomach wound and Eugene take his last breath.

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I could go on, but what ever happened to a poison apple – nothing too visually disturbing there, or mean step sisters ruining a dress before a ball, or taking away a mermaid’s pretty voice? Those things are easier to explain. Like I said, I guess the good news is that I didn’t notice a lot of the violence when I was younger.

 

My Favorite Super Bowl Commercials

I think this is the only time brand messaging doesn’t matter in a commercial. Some get it, some don’t – and none of us really care.

3.) #likeagirl by Always. This sends a great message… and is so true. Just a great commercial all around.

2.) Budweiser’s lost puppy. Do I even need to explain this one?! (And thank you for putting a good looking man in a commercial for us ladies! So many butts and boobs, but we watch too!)

1.) Still dying over Katie Couric and Bryant Gumbel discovering the internet in 1994. Maybe it’s the TV girl in me, but I love the flashback and the reaction to this internet thing. (This one was for BMW – I didn’t pick up on it right away. I think I was distracted by the awesomeness of it.)

Some others worth mentioning:

Esurance – Thank you for using Lindsay Lohan. I don’t know why, but I love it.

Xfinity – The K9-officer made me LOL.

McDonald’s – Pay with Lovin’ is cute. I like it.

Nationwide’s commercial about accidental deaths in children was good – not necessarily the right time or place for it, but I’m disappointed they didn’t show #2 – accidental shooting. I’m guessing it’s avoided because the NRA will get mad about it and no one likes to open that can of worms, but it doesn’t change the statistics.

Kim Kardashian. We get it – you have a big butt. Thanks for the poses. Your lips look a swarm of bees stung them. But seriously, that hair line?! It looks like you are wearing a really bad wig. It looks so odd. (I’m not a hater though. Still, the freaking woman is gorgeous. Not as pretty as she was before all the work, but still crazy attractive. How does that happen?!)

Dove Men – You almost made me cry. Good job.

Avocados from Mexico – I LOL’d.

Carl’s Jr. – Pretty girl, big boobs… but that’s as creative as you could get?! (I’m sure no one else cared.)

Victoria’s Secret – You can do no wrong with those models. Loved it.

Final thoughts: We are all paying way too much for our cars and insurance since these companies have so much money to have every other commercial during the Super Bowl. (You’re welcome Kia and Pierce Brosnan for my monthly payments that contributed to the making of that commercial.)